I ask myself from time to time,"Do I attract women?" The answer to that question sadly is, I don't know! Don't get me wrong I try to attract women, but.... in the end the truth is....I do not know. I think I am an awesome guy; someone who is worth getting to know. I mean, I am cute as the dickens, and all. So how do I know for sure; short of simply walking up and asking. I am definitely not scared to do that; I would like some kind of sign though. I have always been an advocate for honesty.
What does a guy have to do to attract a good woman?, and most importantly how do I know she is interested when I do?. Some people would say her being nice is a good sign, but I say if that were the case then every woman I ever met was hot for me. Now I know some women that; that would be awesome, but not possible and not likely. I don't know, I just wish there were some kind of visual gauge, or interest meter somewhere, so I could know whether or not to proceed.
I keep hoping one day, preferably soon, to meet a woman that will approach me, and lets me know I am the guy that gets her guts all tight and gushy. Although, what really should happen is, she should just encourage me a little, just a small hint. Oh well, who knows what will happen. All I can do is just keep being the sweet, funny, honest, lovable guy I am, and with any luck someone will find me, and appreciate who I am.
I truly enjoy reading and hearing your writing. You place such an interesting twist on words --I am the guy that gets her guts all tight and gushy. Such a great way to describe apprehension.
ReplyDeleteDear Chris,
ReplyDelete"All I can do is just keep being the sweet, funny, honest, lovable guy I am, and with any luck someone will find me, and appreciate who I am." True, true, true. You are all of these things and more.
I believe in honesty, too, and love, and keeping one's heart open. Your writing is so real and I appreciate how open you are on your blog...and I hope that one day this special person and you connect...
I think your questions and feelings are common for many people. I don't know if I could give answers to all of your questions because I do think that they might vary from person to person and be opinionated...but I do think that being yourself is number one...because when you find the right person, and fall in love, it's you that they love and not someone you think you should be. Love is unconditional, so I say be Chris and be Chris with gusto and with whit and with your great personality and kindness and helpfulness...and you will be gold. <3
Take care,
Emma
You really are as cute as the dickens. You've got that right! Great post, Chris. So many good questions. I love the idea of the interest meter, or visual gauge. But really, when you know, you know. And you will know.
ReplyDeleteWell... I don't know what to say exactly... but can comment we all have our pros and cons... and from my experience which is little but is enough to draw interest to my self is... being confident in who I am... because bottom line is... it seems to be that, carrying one in good esteem, good confidence, in itself possess an interesting if not like kind of magnifying quality by which were one other is safe to be able to feel comfortable in their self.... in the sense that one feels secure as well as safe to be what they are, as if what confidence I have within myself, becomes a part of their own... And I just wholeheartedly love the person who is in front of me as they are, without excessive action, remark, or doing... but that just being enough, continually, consistently develops a constant within myself and a repoire with my other, persons, to know that one feels safe to show their affections to me, as similar as I do to them... and in this place is there I think a great ability to develop bond... now from there having a bond is everything to really truly care, to really truly develop to be friends... and that in being friends one another can begin to become more in trust, confidence, hope, and love as it has been founded together appropriate... and that if I may say. I find you to be a sweet intelligent man, with a sense of softness and affection that is genuinely sought after, accomodating, by certain women who appreciate that sense of care above all else.... that you have inside, shown clear through your writing, your sensitivity in our last class... says that you'll stay, be there, someone to love and count on... and perhaps, a person looking for just that, will snatch you right up.
ReplyDeleteConfident in who I am, as in who've I've become.... what I've done... Accepting warts and all, strong and weak, perfect and flawed... making ammends to the differences for some of things I cannot recall in play.
ReplyDeleteConfident in all that has been, accomplished, humbly being able to accept my weakness as being strength, knowing do or die, it's all been done before... that there need be nothing to fear.... but that the best I can is all that is enough... maybe not for today, but for a day to come... that in the process of going out there, I become... so much more, formidable, to one that will come, and desire those things that make me distinguished.. or that make me desirable.